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Real dating dead?

Real dating dead?

February 06
22:48 2013

There’s a new colloquialism going around. It goes like this: “chivalry is dead.”

But is it really? When was the last time you went on a real date and how often does that occur?

We’re talking about a real and traditional date, not just sending out a “hey, what are you up to?” text message that leads to a bar or loafing around an apartment, dorm or house.

A real and traditional date constitutes asking the date out in advance, and generally in person. It should be paid for by the male. We’ll get to this later, so don’t be too quick to label me sexist. It should be in a secluded environment.

We don’t get many of those old-school dates in which the guy brings flowers to the door and stands up when the lady gets up to go to the bathroom.

Those are things that are generally associated with chivalry, as is the male paying for the meal, something which is now in a gray area of uncertainty today.

In a day and age where women have the right to vote and to have a decent job, it makes plenty of sense for the dynamics of who picks up the bill to change.

Men aren’t the protectors of a so-called fairer, stupider and weaker sex.

We’ve evolved as a society. We’ve come to the point of being rational on how we view the two sexes, especially in romance.

“Going Dutch” or the woman paying is perfectly acceptable, and as an intensely broke guy I applaud this notion.

However, the knightly, gallant, chivalrous man  doesn’t allow the woman to pay for his meal.

The knightly man asks his prospective mate for a night about the town in person.

The great advancements in technology have put a damper in the formal approaches to traditional courtship.

The courage needed when asking a date out is avoided with a Facebook message or a text, and it’s still easier to ask someone out by phone call than in person.

The text proposal also perpetuates a nonchalant disaffected attitude that has been deeply imbedded in the hipster generation.

Short messages sent through computer screens are impersonal and rejection is much easier to take when reading it on a three-inch screen.

Courtship and chivalry go hand in hand. If courtship is on the decline, or if the practice is changing, then by default chivalry would be affected in a similar fashion.

Chivalry isn’t dead. It’s changed. Some of it is because the dynamics between men and women have changed.

Another piece is technology. The combination of equality — the lack of need to have a man literally provide for a woman and widespread use of technology — impersonal connections that fuel the youthful nonchalant attitude are to blame.

Say goodbye to the knight in shining armor and say hello to the starving artist staring at his iPhone typing, “hey, wanna chill?”

H. Drew Blackburn is an English senior. He can be reached at

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  1. Andy
    Andy February 07, 13:05

    Very well written and thoughtful. Hopefully the feminists on campus will wake up one day and realize what a cultural treasure we lost in a vain quest for synthetic equality.

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